Bored as hell with your relationship? Are you just fighting most of the time? Well, we’ve all been there. Sure, experiencing relationship ruts is normal, but it can also be isolating and frustrating for both parties. For that reason, we gathered a list of ways on how you could possible bring the spark back to your fizzling relationship.
1. Engage in New and Exciting Activities
Doing things together might be essential to maintain a relationship, but doing the same thing over and over again could also lead to boredom and decreased relationship quality. So stave off the blahs in your relationship, and engage in exhilarating activities together, such as riding roller coasters, going sky diving or even getting a couples’ massage. Trying out new things and playing around will help in boosting your relationship happiness and enhancing your relationship satisfaction.
2. Create a Bucket List
Another thing you can do to bring back the spark in your relationship is to list down the things you’d want to do together as a couple. It could be anything from hiking the nearest trek site in your area or simply cooking dinner together once a week. Once you’re done creating a list, choose three items that you’d both want to do and take them on over the following months.
3. Plan Out Mini-Dates
Too busy to plan a weekly date night? If so, consider eating breakfast together, meeting during lunch, or spending 30 minutes each night to talk with each other instead. In this time, ensure that there are no distraction so you can just focus on each other and on your relationship.
4. Fill Out a “Fantasy Jar”
Another sure-fire way to spice up your relationship is by creating a fantasy jar. In this trick, write out every fantasy that you can think of on a separate piece of paper, and have your S.O. do the same thing. Once you’re both done, place them all in a jar and take turns picking and acting out the fantasies listed on the paper.
5. Communicate Both Your Needs
If you’re stuck in a fighting rut with your partner, then it could be the right time to voice out both your needs. Bottling up your issues will likely decrease your relationship satisfaction and increase the chances of infidelity. To keep that from happening, ensure that you communicate each other’s needs from your relationship, be it emotional support or splitting the bills.
While it’s only normal to feel bored with your relationship, don’t let it worsen and push you or your partner to engage in activities that could cause the fall of your relationship. Instead, work together and try out any of the aforementioned tricks to bring back the spark in your fizzling relationship.